tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post792013659351209047..comments2023-07-06T06:42:41.708-04:00Comments on truth in weakness: How to Strangle a Great Marriagetruth in weaknesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-16406680588013317672012-04-19T11:47:42.988-04:002012-04-19T11:47:42.988-04:00hey there, brandee,
thx so much for visiting trut...hey there, brandee,<br /><br />thx so much for visiting truth in weakness recently, & for sharing your friend's inspiring example (re: praying only blessings for her husband for an entire year). what a powerful challenge, INDEED!<br /><br />and btw, i enjoyed reading your about me! and i see we have lots in common, starting w/ our birth yr, & incl. the flute, seasons of residence in the mid-atlantic & midwest, & JMU (i have a bro-in-law who's a prof there, & a nephew who's studying there. cue sentimental sniff.). ;) and i almost went there, myself.<br /><br />blessings to you & yours. and my apologies for not dropping you a note sooner -- b/t spring break & a sick hubby, i've had the blessed opp to breathe more life into my two guys than my blog lately. :) take care, & would love to have you stop by again sometime!truth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-80697551661115456772012-04-04T21:28:06.577-04:002012-04-04T21:28:06.577-04:00This is a good post. Ultimately, God has to change...This is a good post. Ultimately, God has to change everyone's heart. I'll admit, though; it's hard to leave that work up to God. A friend of mine told me, recently, that she prayed only blessings for her husband for an entire year. She said it was life-changing. What a challenge!Brandee Shaferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960175760263515363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-6375528423403611492012-04-03T15:50:56.134-04:002012-04-03T15:50:56.134-04:00they sure are, theresa. every time i realize how m...they sure are, theresa. every time i realize how much weight i put on them, i'm faced with the fact that i'm looking to the wrong place/source for my fulfillment. because in reality, no matter how wonderful my husband is (& he sure is -- hands DOWN!), i will never be fully satisfied in my marriage (or any OTHER relationship, for that matter) until my soul finds its fill, its rest in the all-sufficiency of Christ.<br /><br />you're exactly right -- it's simply a matter of trusting God to take care of the dream, to BE the dream. <br />thanks so much for visiting, & your encouraging insights & example,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-46594779263801518482012-04-03T12:24:28.061-04:002012-04-03T12:24:28.061-04:00thank you, sweet soul, for sharing that you, too, ...thank you, sweet soul, for sharing that you, too, face this seemingly-relentless struggle. i read something the other night from beth moore that was so very freeing. she said,<br />"if we're willing to admit our lack of confidence in Him, Christ is more than willing to help us overcome our unbelief."<br />is that not truth in weakness or WHAT? oh, the glorious freedom to be weak, & let HIM be our strength!<br />blessings to you, sweet sister. i'm so honored that you stopped by.<br />- tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-81906685961041704432012-04-03T11:05:06.314-04:002012-04-03T11:05:06.314-04:00Aren't expectations the hardest to overcome in...Aren't expectations the hardest to overcome in marriage? I'm learning that when I let go of the expectation, God takes care of that dream...something about letting go that gets up where we want to go (unless God completely transforms the dream!). "Truth: Trusting God doesn’t mean that we have to lose our dreams and desires.It means we get to find the very Fulfillment of them!" So true.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your heart.Theresa Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05024811456434325066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-15452732648146025402012-04-03T00:28:03.822-04:002012-04-03T00:28:03.822-04:00yes! these expectations. I find myself drawn to my...yes! these expectations. I find myself drawn to my own set in almost every situation...learning to let go and allow things to "be"...great reminder!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05260565778393696918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-78050840683072645012012-03-28T11:27:49.771-04:002012-03-28T11:27:49.771-04:00thanks for that encouragement, lisa. and He knows,...thanks for that encouragement, lisa. and He knows, doesn't He? He certainly knows . . . <br /><br />blessings to you today,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-34894433847603616232012-03-28T08:08:30.320-04:002012-03-28T08:08:30.320-04:00Tanya, you hit this truth straight on. I love &qu...Tanya, you hit this truth straight on. I love "As if to show my husband grace by releasing him of an expectation is to throw away the value associated with the expectation, and the well-being of the relationship." Powerful!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing,<br />Lisa<br /><br />www.moretobe.com & www.pnpcoaching.comLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10845894193543130893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-29708715125551175152012-03-27T15:55:11.239-04:002012-03-27T15:55:11.239-04:00i'm so happy you stopped by! thx for your enco...i'm so happy you stopped by! thx for your encouraging words, & sharing that you, too, can relate. in fact, i could pretty much switch out my title for yours, couldn't i? because in my struggle to trust, i'm essentially saying no. no to His plan, no to His best, no to His goodness . . . goodness, it's really such a no-brainer, isn't it?<br /><br />blessings to you & yours, shari,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-50444374275225164942012-03-27T15:34:43.902-04:002012-03-27T15:34:43.902-04:00thx so much for stopping by, kara, & sharing y...thx so much for stopping by, kara, & sharing your thoughts on how you can relate to this struggle. <br /><br />and i'm so thrilled that you mentioned paul tripp's book b/c his brother tedd wrote my fav. parenting book (shepherding a child's heart). and only recently have i stumbled upon some of paul's writing online & been so incredibly drawn in by it, b/c it gushes gospel grace! so i will DEF. be looking up that book.<br /><br />and you're exactly right about it coming down to not trusting God to meet our needs, being afraid that He's not sufficient like He says He is . . . i was chewing on that fear root some more this afternoon with the Lord. "do what is right without being frightened by any fear" . . . YES. (YES, Lord -- may it be so in my life!)<br /><br />your insights are pure delight here, friend. i truly hope you stop by again sometime.<br /><br />sweet blessings to you, kara,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-15279331218735201782012-03-26T23:53:24.895-04:002012-03-26T23:53:24.895-04:00Thank you for stopping by Leaving A Legacy today, ...Thank you for stopping by Leaving A Legacy today, and for your sweet comments. I loved your post. I have the same problem, of not giving it over to God first. Sometimes I think, when will I learn. I have to continually surrender to God every day. :)Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11730656704284762754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-34100735317233990032012-03-26T18:12:41.389-04:002012-03-26T18:12:41.389-04:00gail,
what a treat to have you stop by. and thank...gail, <br />what a treat to have you stop by. and thank you for candidly sharing how much you can relate to this struggle. i've cont. to process this with the Lord since writing it, reminded again {& again} how quickly i create idols in my heart (incl. with my expectations). in fact, i read this martin luther quote just last night: <br />"whatever your heart clings to and confides in, that is really your God" (or "functional" savior). <br />and so i remain ever, ever grateful that God is greater than my heart!<br />blessings to you & yours,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-27202128421534800512012-03-26T18:02:27.776-04:002012-03-26T18:02:27.776-04:00Yes...very much.
I could relate to this very much....Yes...very much.<br />I could relate to this very much...<br />Last year we read Paul Tripp's-- <br />"What Did You Expect? Redeaming the Realities Marriage."<br />Probably my all-time-favorite marriage book.<br />But it hit me--when I hold onto expectations is really all because of fear. Because I don't trust God to meet my needs. Because I don't trust that God can change him/us/me. Because I am afraid.<br /><br />I love the verse...<br />"do what is right without being frightened by any fear..." (1 Pet. 3:6)<br />Entrusting myself to Him.<br />I know He is faithful.<br />LOVED this post!Kara Chupphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13182607074543277164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-50458863263049278722012-03-26T16:39:35.430-04:002012-03-26T16:39:35.430-04:00thanks so much for stopping by. and i'll defin...thanks so much for stopping by. and i'll definitely look forward to checking out your blog, too!<br /><br />blessings to you,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-24300733978072469752012-03-26T11:17:57.708-04:002012-03-26T11:17:57.708-04:00This is very powerful. I am with you each step of ...This is very powerful. I am with you each step of your journey. Expectations have made me feel unhappy in the midst of incredible blessing and goodness. Compared to the rest of the world, we Americans have it so easy...yet we are the ones who are always questioning God's goodness! Thanks for sharing this honest and convicting post.Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-68849022436458704952012-03-25T17:05:02.860-04:002012-03-25T17:05:02.860-04:00Thank you for sharing the article with us! keep on...Thank you for sharing the article with us! keep on posting and sharing! I have also a blog, I just thought that you want also to visit it and follow me http://godsarmour1031.blogspot.com<br /><br />More power to your site..<br /><br />and GOD bless you..GOD'S Armourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865746538894727239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-51262270610675951902012-03-24T22:21:46.522-04:002012-03-24T22:21:46.522-04:00hey there, heather -- thx so much for stopping by!...hey there, heather -- thx so much for stopping by! and i can't tell you how much it encourages my soul for you to say that i pointed people back to the only One who can truly fulfill our desires. b/c that is precicely my heart's deep, deep desire for this entire blog. so really, makes me so very thankful to hear that.<br /><br />thx again for reaching out on circle of moms!<br /><br />blessings to you & yours this weekend,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-9619193660153308072012-03-24T11:25:45.256-04:002012-03-24T11:25:45.256-04:00WELL SAID, my friend! that is the glorious paradox...WELL SAID, my friend! that is the glorious paradox, indeed. we have the opp. to entrust our dreams to the One who is able to do immeasurably more than anything we CAN dream! the only "risk:" discovering full soul rest . . . <br /><br />Lord, let your agape love flow through me.<br />More of You, less of me.truth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-88336018056343733102012-03-24T11:09:49.200-04:002012-03-24T11:09:49.200-04:00hey there, sweet friend,
thanks for your honesty....hey there, sweet friend,<br /><br />thanks for your honesty. and there's def. Hope for us to one day get it -- b/c God is greater than the messiest corners of our hearts. and i think getting it will essentially mean getting Him. His trustworthiness, His goodness, the fact that His heart is even more vested in my marriage than mine is, the fact that His dreams for my marriage far surpass my own. a young woman at my church wrote a book titled, "will you trade your dreams for His?" that's exactly it.<br /><br />have a blessed weekend, & btw, i started tchividjian's book last night -- wonderful!! just as gospel drenched as i was hoping. lovin' it -- with highlighter in hand. ;)truth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-40079674665699359892012-03-23T22:13:36.291-04:002012-03-23T22:13:36.291-04:00I love this! It's so insightful. It's very...I love this! It's so insightful. It's very easy, especially in marriage, to feel like you have a right to your expectations being met by your spouse. I love that you point people back to the only one that can truly fulfill our desires. ~Heather @ http://lovelybeautifulsmiles.blogspot.comHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08849731145892155744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-48725410089653489292012-03-23T10:35:09.376-04:002012-03-23T10:35:09.376-04:00The more we let got, the more we gain. One of thes...The more we let got, the more we gain. One of these faith paradoxes that work time after time. Yet it is tough to surrender. But when we give our dreams to God, He can perfect them or give us even better ones. The more we focus on God, the easier our lives/marriages become. Such an authentic post, Tanya. Thank you for sharing and getting us thinking/talking. BLESSINGSMari-Anna @flowingfaithhttp://www.flowingfaith.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-58436936535596993022012-03-22T22:44:35.939-04:002012-03-22T22:44:35.939-04:00Expectations! Ugh, how I *know* just what you are...Expectations! Ugh, how I *know* just what you are talking about here. I have been the Queen of expectations, especially in my marriage relationship. I have been there (you know the ungracious place) so many times. And every time I wonder when I will finally get it. Not until eternity I don't think. Because that's why I need His grace.Jamiehttp://www.brownpaperandstrings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-71035543794801582492012-03-22T13:06:10.739-04:002012-03-22T13:06:10.739-04:00what a delight to virtually meet you today, jen. a...what a delight to virtually meet you today, jen. and what you shared reminds me of a story our discipleship pastor shared on sunday:<br /><br />before he was married, he wrote a list of all of the attributes for his future wife. he showed it to his friend and declared, "THIS is the woman i will marry." to which the friend responded that if he finds that woman, then she will expect the same things of him.<br /><br />isn't that so great? oh, how i could unfortunately relate to him. and as for the disappointments, i'm learning {little-by-little} that God lovingly allows them -- as invitations to cling to the Cross & nothing else. <br />and the reality? my husband is needing to do the very. same. thing.<br /><br />thanks, jen, for your encouragement today & virtual hug.<br />big hugs back-atcha, friend,<br />tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-63911910121656945112012-03-22T12:57:10.006-04:002012-03-22T12:57:10.006-04:00thanks so much for stopping by! and while i know i...thanks so much for stopping by! and while i know i'm not the only one who struggles with this, it's so helpful to hear somebody actually verbalize that they struggle, too. so thank you for that gift of understanding. <br />may God give us the courage to entrust Him with our dreams -- knowing that our spouse is needing to do the very same thing!truth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5549551131609471601.post-46553655103235951362012-03-22T12:51:32.220-04:002012-03-22T12:51:32.220-04:00cheryl,
thank you so much for that spot-on insight...cheryl,<br />thank you so much for that spot-on insight about true friends encouraging us to think rightly. <br />what you shared reminds me much of what a good friend of mine shared with me a while ago. she told me that she's not a big fan of marriage books -- b/c she's seen so many women come away from them with a focus on how their husband should be better. interestingly enough, her name is cheryl. :)<br />thank you for taking the time to invest in the rest of us with your insight on healthy, productive patterns in Biblical counsel -- or even just in ordinary conversations with our girlfriends.<br />- tanyatruth in weaknesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08990150036200778476noreply@blogger.com